Stevan and Denis

Denis & Stevan

Having just completed our four week prep group we wanted to share our take on the whole experience.

I'll start with saying we both found it emotional and mentally draining, there is a lot to take in over four days. Some days on the way home in the car neither of us spoke a word because we had so much going through our minds. It was rewarding though and we got a lot out of the four days, we now have a much better understanding of what adoption will mean to us, for our family and our friends now and in the future. If you are unsure, if you have a thousand questions that you need answered before you make up your mind about Adoption, then this is it, this Preparation Group will hopefully fill in the missing pieces for you, because that’s what it did for us. It solidified our reasoning that Adoption is the right decision and route for us and equally as important, it is the right time for us to move forward.

We had three social workers with us throughout the four days and I can’t credit them enough. They were fantastic going through each step. Some of the modules are tough and deal with some very serious issues, but they handle them in a very professional and caring manner. With their help you gain enough information by the end of the course to decide if you want to move forward or realise that adoption might not be for you after all.

If I could give anyone considering attending the prep group any advice it would be to go in with an open mind. Before we attended we had a lot of preconceived ideas and felt confident in certain choices we had already made, however it was clear from the first day that “you may think you know, but you have no idea”. We read up on adoption, did our research and watched the videos but in hindsight we were quite naive about a lot of it.

Finally if you do attend I would say get to know the other potential adopters in the preparation group. If everyone goes forward with their journey then they will potentially be a fantastic support network for you so don’t be shy. Go for lunch together on day one as it was week 3 before our group started to bond and with only one week left to build on that bond, we all wished we had made the effort earlier on.