October Book of the Month
Brothers and Sisters in Adoption by Arleta James
When parents decide to adopt an older child or a sibling group, they go through all sorts of background checks, interviews, group meetings, reading assignments, classes, etc. But most often the children these adults are already parenting (whether through birth or adoption) are left out of the process, informed that a new kid is coming, and simply expected to adjust to the addition of a sibling.
Adding a child with a history of neglect or trauma cannot be a seamless transition. The expectations of everyone involved - parents, new siblings, and the professionals facilitating the adoption, must be realistic, taking into account that the new child will need special attention and services that may take away time and attention from the already resident children, that family life is likely to be turned topsy- turvy until appropriate counselling and support are in place, and that relationships will change.
Therapist Arleta James is certainly not the first person to recognise this, but she is the first to do something about it. 'Brothers and Sisters in Adoption' offers insights and examples and sturdy, practical, proven tools for helping newly configured families prepare, accept, react, and mobilise to become a new and different family meeting the practical, physical and emotional needs of all its members. These well prepared and supported families are the ones who thrive!
"Brothers and Sisters in Adoptioncontains much to ponder and re-read at different ages and stages of parenting. Having read many helpful adoption books, I can say that if pediatricians, therapists, adoption professionals and parents were going to read only one non-clinical book on adoptive parenting issues, I would recommend this one."Allison Branscombe
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