Birth family contact

Birth family contact

I want to contact my birth family, but I’m not sure how my parents will feel about it. They say it’s fine, but I get a feeling that they’re not.  What should I do? (Girl age 15)

Question:  I want to contact my birth family, but I’m not sure how my parents will feel about it. They say it’s fine, but I get a feeling that they’re not.  What should I do? (Girl age 15)

Response from our Ambassadors Rebecca and Arran:

If possible, the best way to move forward with birth family contact would be with your parents’ support. You may find out some difficult information and having your parents with you as part of this will be very important. I’m sure your parents only want the best for you and to protect you, but we understand that you also know your own feelings and feel mature enough to make this decision. 

If you find it difficult bringing birth family contact up with them, perhaps your social worker or a family friend can help you to find out how your parents are feeling. 

When you’re 16, you can access your own adoption file. However, 16 is still very young and although you have a right to access your own information, you will need a lot of support to do this in a safe way. 

The staff at Scottish Adoption may be able to help you find out where your adoption file is held and then support you to begin the process.